But It Was A Smiley Face

So, normally I would tell all my KLOUD followers the good things about being Kaidy's mom. You all get to see the play dates, mommy-daughter outings, the smiles, the laughs, and the "extra" in me. However, my child is far from an angel and I am no where close to being a perfect parent. Today, I am going to let you all in on the bad times, the not so good moments, the hard parts about being Kaidy's mom.

"But It Was A Smiley Face," Kaidy.

School is a place to learn, grow and receive proper education,
Not a place for you to be having your own casual conversation,
While failing to be a part of class participation,
Just because you feel the need to ignore the given information,
Obviously forgetting who the adult is in the situation.

We do not pay our hard earned money for you attend school and do as you please,
I don't care how may times your teacher ask you to recite your abc's,
You better be like a canary and sing,
Pay attention and listen to everything, because she is the adult and you don't run anything,
So, never undermine the authority of your teacher for nobody.

I don't know who told you that you didn't have to follow instruction,
But, we do not play those games, you will not be a class disruption,
You are to be preparing and planning how to always be productive,
And when you do anything but, you and my belt will have a formal introduction,
Until you learn how to quietly sit in class without extra discussion.

Regardless if you are at home or at school, you are still a kid,
Your teacher is the adult, she tells you what to do and you are to listen,
The more I find out that you aren't following direction,
The more you, cartoons, kindle and toys can have a proper division,
Because, hard-headed kids do not get those special privileges,
So, you better learn your lesson.

"In the meant-time, no cartoons for you, you get to take a bath, do homework and go to bed early today,"
"But, mommy I didn't have a number 2, it was a smiley face."

Yep, Kaidy received her first bad report at school. I checked her behavior folder and she had a number 2 indicating that she needed to learn to follow instructions. I was so upset with her. I do not like a hard-headed, disrespectful kids. Teachers work hard and spend just as much time with our kids as we do. So, for 8-9 hours a day, Kaidy is to listen, respect and obey that teacher as she would myself, dad or any other adult. I spend to much money and time and put in too much effort for her to be at school misbehaving. Yea, she is only three, but breaking the bad habits starts now. Even at home lately, she has been testing my patience and trying my authority; but, she is slowly remembering that I am the adult and what I say goes. She will not be disrespectful and she will not think its okay to talk back or to not obey. I prefer she learns now before she gets older and she feels it's okay and she can do whatever she wants. Not my child and not in my house! 

No, I don't whoop her all the time, but I have used a belt and I am sure I will again. I try other alternatives because I  do not want to be a parent that constantly "beats" their child. To me, punishment (taking away things they enjoy) and time out works better and leaves a lasting impression. But, every parenting style is different; so, do what you have to do in the best interest of your child. It works for Kaidy though and her feelings be so hurt. lol. She was too upset today that she couldn't watch television or play Dora on her tablet. Oh well. I bet she learns next time to do with the teacher says.

Well, I am no perfect parent and everyday I am learning how to deal with the everyday dealings and mishaps of raising a child. I'm sure today is one of many other obstacles we will face and overcome. As we have conquered many before today. Parenting is hard and whomever said it was easy wasn't being realistic. We learn something new about our kids daily; so, daily we have to adjust and keep rocking with it. And at the end of the day, that is all we can do. To keep learning, keep growing, keep praying for guidance. I ask God daily to continue to mold and shape me into being the parent He wants me to be.

"Parenting is not a practice. It is a daily learning experience!"

-unknown

Until Next Time,

XOXO 😘

K. Giles

It's Okay to Do Absolutely Nothing

"Life is all about balance. You don't always need to be getting stuff done. Sometimes it's perfectly okay, and absolutely necessary, to shut down, kick back, and do nothing." -Lori Deschene


Absolutely Nothing

I enjoy when I get the chance to do absolutely nothing,
See I treasure my "me" time, because I'm always ripping and running.
Trust, it's always something.
Between work, school, being mommy, errands, chores and the list goes on,
I hardly ever get to spend time alone.
It's rare that my calendar has an empty space,
There's always a birthday dinner, baby shower, kid party or play date.
For me, sitting down for five minutes or going to the restroom alone is never easy,
And it's a privilege if I get to do something like take a nap or even watch television.
So, yes when I get the chance I rather stay inside,
I love to be alone in my own space, relaxing my body and clearing my mind.
I've learned that it's okay to say no at times,
Because things, people, life will suck you dry and take you down.
Watching a movie  or catching up on the DVR, on the couch with a glass a wine, is everything to me,
That's when I'm most comfortable, that's when I'm happy, that's when I feel completely relaxed and free.
Since I've been there before, no longer will I get to a point of feeling like I don't know if I'm going or coming,
So from now on I'm taking my own advice and it's okay to sometimes do absolutely nothing.

It's okay to do nothing and it's okay to say no; because, sometimes as parents, husbands, wives, students, employees, friends, etc. our lives get hectic and we feel bad about taking time for ourselves, but I've learned it's okay to need a break. It's okay to want peace and quiet. It's okay to have some me time. And it's perfectly okay to do absolutely nothing!

I got the inspiration for today's blog a few weekends back. One of my friends asked me why was I staying in and I didn't have my kid.
And I said so. That's the best time to spend alone. I look forward to the days I'm home alone. I look forward to just be able to watch tv (I watch cartoons everyday) lol. I like sitting on the couch and watching a movie or two. I like to have a glass of wine in peace. I love uninterrupted sleep!
I love doing nothing...that's the best weekend ever. And this weekend Kaidy will be gone and I will be right on the couch binge watching the rest of Wentworth. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

"When you ask me what I'm doing today and I say "nothing," it does not mean I'm free. It means I'm doing nothing." -unknown

Until next time
Xoxoxo 🤗😘
K. Giles

Plain Ole' Ki!

Music  

"I'm just a girl trying to make a way

It gets so hard but I'll be okay 

I don't really care what the people say

Cause this is me...

-Fantasia "This is Me."

Today's blog is a little different. I let you all ask me whatever you wanted. I'm welcoming you into my world, interview style. I hope my followers learn a little more about me, my life, my writing...and thank you so much for such great questions...

•What inspires you to write?

Other people. I feel my story, my journey could help someone else. Life inspires me. Kaidy inspires me. My joy and happiness inspires me. I just love to write and I enjoy writing. So, I write to be free. To vent. To heal. To live. And to love. You all inspire me. 

•How do you come up with your ideas? 

Life experiences. Conversations. Surroundings. Songs. My friends. Every new poem almost always comes from something that I just went through or going to do or a conversation that I've recently had. I tell you guys my life. So, whatever is going on at the time, that's what I most times write about. 

•Will you ever write a fictional book? 

I honestly don't know. Maybe. Who knows. The possibilities are limitless. Of course, I write best about my reality, I share my honest truths. My poetry is based on my life and happenings, but you never know. My imagination gets to turning sometimes, so I just might. If I did, I'm sure it would be about love and romance. I love fairy tales. 

•What do you enjoy most about being a mom? 

Everything. Lol. She's my joy. I love the time we spend. I love when we talk about everything and nothing. I love that she loves me flaws and all. To her I'm the best mommy ever. I love that there's at least one person in my corner. One person that believes in me. The best thing is that I get to be her motivation and role model. I'll never forget graduation day. She cheered me on and weeks after, she still congratulated me. My baby was proud of her mommy and I'm proud to be her mommy. Some say she's lucky to have me as a mommy. But, I'm the lucky one. She has an amazing personality. She's absolutely perfect.

•Do you write everyday? 

No. I wish I could, but I just don't have the time. I write when an idea pops up in my head or if I'm in the mood. I try to blog weekly, but even sometimes that's a challenge. I write best when I'm alone, at night, laying in bed, just listening to my thoughts; the words seem to just flow.

•How many times have you had your heart broken? 

 Once. Yes, I've been hurt, mad, angry, lied to and cheated on. But, honest and true heartbreak, once. You'll get to read what happened in my book NOT So Lucky in Love (releases December 7th).

•What is the worse relationship you've been in? 

OMG do I have to pick just one?! Lol. All of them (hence, I'm still not married) lol. But, I won't blame just them, I'm not always the best partner to deal with. Every relationship has its own problems, challenges and deal breakers. So, I don't know. They weren't all bad, but they weren't all good.

•Do you believe in your heart that you will marry? 

Honestly, not like I use to. Of course, I believe in love and I'm still hopeful, but I won't hold my breath. I'm okay with being single and I'm happy with me. Self love is the best. Would I like to be married, sure. But, if it never happens, I'm okay. I pray daily for comfort, peace, contentment and genuine happiness with just Kaidy and I. I don't want a man around just to say I have one. So, I don't know. I guess that's up to God. But, I'm truly okay either way. 

•How did you become such a great mom? 

This question was hard for me. I answered it last. Every mom thinks they're a great mom. But, why? Because you care for them or buy them things or spend time? What's great about that?! That's our job right, our responsibility, so why does it makes us great? 

When thinking of answers, of course I thought about the basics like being present. Spending time. Nurturing. Protecting. Instilling values. Education. Etc., but those are the basics, what a mom is to do, right?

Until a few days ago, I didn't have the right answer. There will never be a right answer. Every mom will be great for different reasons. But, I feel like being a good mother is putting my pride to the side for her well-being. It's not about being the perfect mother or always doing everything on my own. It's okay to admit when I can't do it alone. A good mother puts her child's needs first. A good mother doesn't like to tell her child no or I can't do; so, a great mother does what she has to, to make sure all of the kids' needs are supplied, even if it means admitting you need help. #ittakesavillage 

•What is the first thing you will do once you make your first500,000 dollars? 

Man, who knows! I never thought this far ahead. I just wanted to write. I just wanted to share my story. It was never about the money. 

I guess I would help a single mother, help my family, save, start a business, travel, Kaidy college fund. 🤷🏽‍♀️ I honestly don't know. But, I would definitely keep writing. 

•What do you hope to accomplish by sharing your blog?

I share my blog to inspire others to do something they love, to step out on faith. I share my blog to help someone through a similar situation...to say Kiara got through it and I can too. I always wish to accomplish being encouraging and inspiring. I share my blog to let others know that they have a voice. My main focus is to always be open, transparent and real; so, that people will believe in my words and people will gain from my story. My blog is to give advice the best way I know how and that's through my writing. If one person, only one, reads my blog and takes something from it, they heal or face their truths, my blog has served its purpose. My blog is to promote self love and happiness. To show others how to let go and move on from things. In the beginning my blogs were bitter, healing mechanisms, but you all have watched me grow. And now my blogs are full of love and happiness . My blog is to show you all that I am human. I've been there too, I get it. I just want people to read my blog and feel free. 

Plain Ole Ki...

I'm just plain ole me, 

I don't think I'm better than anyone or I'm more than what you see. 

I'm far from perfect and I have my flaws, 

My life isn't glitter nor glamorous at all.

I'm just taking things one day at a time, 

And lord knows I haven't accomplished all my dreams, but I'm trying.

Trust I get tired, being mommy, having a full time job, blogging, author, errands, chores and school is kicking my butt,

But, this is everything that I wanted and more, it's what I signed up for. 

And even if I bend, I won't break, 

Because I promise to do whatever it takes. 

And when I publish these books, do book signings and press release,

I will never change, I will do it humbled and gracefully,

Because God knows I just want to be me, be happy and free,

I'm human just like you, I'm still just plain ole Ki. 

Music  

"I'm thinking about my future lately 

Whatever that may be

But now it's clear to me

I can just be Ki..."

-Ginuwine "Same Ol' G"

Thanks for tuning in today's Monday Meet with Ki! Until next time, I leave you with this quote....

"I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel."

-Maya Angelou 

Xoxo  

K.Giles

Who Cares What You Think?

"Only fools let compliments get to their head and criticism get to their heart!"

-unknown
 
A friend told me, the world is full of critics, so why care about other people's opinion?! Half of the time, they're just mad because they are not doing what you're doing! And when they don't know what you really got going, the unknown is a silent killer! 

It's funny that people will remember everything about you except the good parts. They'll tell everybody everything you got wrong, and overlook what's right. Why can't people give you your props?! Just be happy for the next person. But, everybody so called grown, until someone else doing better than them! And boy people hate to see other people succeeding. SMH. It's sad. 

Everybody always want to be in competition,

That's why I'm learning how to be in my own lane, minding my own business!

Sometimes it's best to be your own hype man,

Everybody is not going to root for you, everybody don't agree with your plan.

But, keep going after your dreams, keep sight of your vision,

Because when you're dedicated to that mission,

No one can stop you, no one can tell you anything different.

And it's funny that it's often times the ones closer to you that cheers you on the least,

They'll do and say everything about  your journey except how to be a part of your support team.

But, look past their negativity. 

Screw their criticism. 

They're just mad because they had plans, but your plans were bigger. 

See, you can use their judgment and hate as motivation,

Go hard for what you believe in and let your success smile in their faces, 

And you don't owe them an explanation,

Build your platform and let your end result be the conversation. 

At the end of the day, your opinion is the only one that matters,

They don't pay your bills, they're non m'fkn factors,

Oh, excuse my manners,

But, if you want to know how I feel about people,

They can kiss my ass,

Final answer!

Never second guess your craft, your vision, your success because of someone else's insecurities. If you believe in yourself, that's all that matters. The only person that has to be proud of you, is you! Pat yourself on the back and keep it moving. 

"No one can make you feel inferior without your consent!"

-Eleanor Roosevelt 

Until next time,

Xoxo  

K.Giles

#Dec7th #NOTSoLuckyInLove