Sex Me.

"Keep your heels, head, and standards high!"

-Coco Chanel 

My latest poem and it's perfect for Self-Love Sunday! When a woman realizes her worth, things change! 

Last poem of 2017...enjoy

Sex Me.

If you want to make me orgasmic...

Focus on me outside of the bed,

Stimulate me without being in between my legs.

I need you to shower me with your time,

Intrigue me with your mind. 

Enlighten me with your wisdom,

Ease my doubt with your optimism.

Be nourishment to my body like you're my favorite meal,

Show me that a relationship consists of more than just "Netflix and Chill."

Bless me with your presence,

Don't try to flatter me with just presents. 

See, I like for a man to "court" me like it's going out of style,

Put in the effort, do things to make me smile.

Be supportive, encouraging, and kind,

Respect me, all of my body, soul and mind.

Share your aspirations, tell me your dreams,

Let's accomplish them together, be for me and I'll show you there's no I in team.

Care about me and my plans as if they were your own,

Be my personal motivator, reassure me when I'm right, correct me when I'm wrong.

Compliment me just because, tell me I'm beautiful, sprinkle me with love,

Make me feel like I'm the only one for you, like I'm the prettiest girl in the world.

I want to be lucky to have you in my life, 

But, I want a man who feels honored to one day have me as his wife.

Be real, be honest, be faithful and stay true,

Then I'll forever be loyal to you.

Don't just be a lover, be my best friend,

Let me into your world, cherish me like you never want us to end. 

Show me that chivalry is very much still alive,

Be a gentleman, come to the door and ask if I'm ready, don't text and say I'm outside. 

Be the type of man that you would want your mother or daughter to marry,

And everything you did to attract me, keep at it to keep me, don't be temporary. 

Know when to be serious, but let's laugh and have fun, 

Be a man of your word and then some,

If you're man enough to cater to my needs, deal with my attitude, and be sensitive to my feelings, then you sir will grasp the task of making me come...

"When you raise your standards, only the boys will disappear. The Men will step up to meet them!"

-Mandy Hale 

HAPPY NEW YEAR 🎆🎆🎆

©2017. Kiara Giles. All Rights Reserved. 

Love Has...

I am so excited to share with you all the book description for my upcoming poetry book. Thank you all for the love and support. It's greatly appreciated. Stay tuned...NOT So Lucky in Love is coming soon.

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NOT So Lucky in Love ❤️
I refuse to be anybody’s second choice, last resort or back-up plan. If you’re not in love with me for me and genuinely choose me, I do not want you to be my man…Okay, so yes, I have been a fool a time or two; but, who hasn’t? Love will make you do some crazy things and believe in everything, but the truth. I am what one would call a hopeless romantic. I believe in love and I just love the idea of love. Most people want the fairy tale love; the house, the dog, the car and the white picket fence. However, that happens almost never. So, just like many of you, I have had my heart broken. I have been cheated on and lied to. I knew for a fact that me and my high school sweetheart would get married and live happily ever after and no one could have told me differently. Not. Then, I thought me, and my child’s father would be one big happy family. I never wanted to be a baby mother. Thus far, that did not happen either. Let’s not forget about all the potential men far and in between. Most of them didn’t even stand a chance. Boy bye. Yet, even after all the bad and failed relationships, I still believe in love. I want the unconditional, true, genuine and pure love ordained by God that 1^st Corinthians speaks of. However, the men that I have met are not the men from the bible. I’m sure many of you have not met your Boaz either (go figure, huh). Everyone’s love story does not always end the same. When I tell you that mines is far from fairy tale, I kid you not. There was some good, some bad and some ugly. But, I vowed to be content in my singleness and wait on the Lord. And while I am waiting, I have decided to take you guys on a journey through my not so “1^st Corinthians” relationships, hope you enjoy the ride…and remember that the sun does shine after the rain. I took all the energy from being NOT So Lucky in Love to falling in love with the relationships that matters the most.

Today's blog is little different and will feature my very first video blog. I hope you all enjoy and please subscribe to my YouTube channel so that you all can stay up to date on new blogs, book details, release dates, etc. 
 https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KQlRxnloUqM&t=50s

Until next time,
XOXOXO 😘 
K. Giles  
©2017. Kiara Giles. All Rights Reserved.

But It Was A Smiley Face

So, normally I would tell all my KLOUD followers the good things about being Kaidy's mom. You all get to see the play dates, mommy-daughter outings, the smiles, the laughs, and the "extra" in me. However, my child is far from an angel and I am no where close to being a perfect parent. Today, I am going to let you all in on the bad times, the not so good moments, the hard parts about being Kaidy's mom.

"But It Was A Smiley Face," Kaidy.

School is a place to learn, grow and receive proper education,
Not a place for you to be having your own casual conversation,
While failing to be a part of class participation,
Just because you feel the need to ignore the given information,
Obviously forgetting who the adult is in the situation.

We do not pay our hard earned money for you attend school and do as you please,
I don't care how may times your teacher ask you to recite your abc's,
You better be like a canary and sing,
Pay attention and listen to everything, because she is the adult and you don't run anything,
So, never undermine the authority of your teacher for nobody.

I don't know who told you that you didn't have to follow instruction,
But, we do not play those games, you will not be a class disruption,
You are to be preparing and planning how to always be productive,
And when you do anything but, you and my belt will have a formal introduction,
Until you learn how to quietly sit in class without extra discussion.

Regardless if you are at home or at school, you are still a kid,
Your teacher is the adult, she tells you what to do and you are to listen,
The more I find out that you aren't following direction,
The more you, cartoons, kindle and toys can have a proper division,
Because, hard-headed kids do not get those special privileges,
So, you better learn your lesson.

"In the meant-time, no cartoons for you, you get to take a bath, do homework and go to bed early today,"
"But, mommy I didn't have a number 2, it was a smiley face."

Yep, Kaidy received her first bad report at school. I checked her behavior folder and she had a number 2 indicating that she needed to learn to follow instructions. I was so upset with her. I do not like a hard-headed, disrespectful kids. Teachers work hard and spend just as much time with our kids as we do. So, for 8-9 hours a day, Kaidy is to listen, respect and obey that teacher as she would myself, dad or any other adult. I spend to much money and time and put in too much effort for her to be at school misbehaving. Yea, she is only three, but breaking the bad habits starts now. Even at home lately, she has been testing my patience and trying my authority; but, she is slowly remembering that I am the adult and what I say goes. She will not be disrespectful and she will not think its okay to talk back or to not obey. I prefer she learns now before she gets older and she feels it's okay and she can do whatever she wants. Not my child and not in my house! 

No, I don't whoop her all the time, but I have used a belt and I am sure I will again. I try other alternatives because I  do not want to be a parent that constantly "beats" their child. To me, punishment (taking away things they enjoy) and time out works better and leaves a lasting impression. But, every parenting style is different; so, do what you have to do in the best interest of your child. It works for Kaidy though and her feelings be so hurt. lol. She was too upset today that she couldn't watch television or play Dora on her tablet. Oh well. I bet she learns next time to do with the teacher says.

Well, I am no perfect parent and everyday I am learning how to deal with the everyday dealings and mishaps of raising a child. I'm sure today is one of many other obstacles we will face and overcome. As we have conquered many before today. Parenting is hard and whomever said it was easy wasn't being realistic. We learn something new about our kids daily; so, daily we have to adjust and keep rocking with it. And at the end of the day, that is all we can do. To keep learning, keep growing, keep praying for guidance. I ask God daily to continue to mold and shape me into being the parent He wants me to be.

"Parenting is not a practice. It is a daily learning experience!"

-unknown

Until Next Time,

XOXO 😘

K. Giles

It's Okay to Do Absolutely Nothing

"Life is all about balance. You don't always need to be getting stuff done. Sometimes it's perfectly okay, and absolutely necessary, to shut down, kick back, and do nothing." -Lori Deschene


Absolutely Nothing

I enjoy when I get the chance to do absolutely nothing,
See I treasure my "me" time, because I'm always ripping and running.
Trust, it's always something.
Between work, school, being mommy, errands, chores and the list goes on,
I hardly ever get to spend time alone.
It's rare that my calendar has an empty space,
There's always a birthday dinner, baby shower, kid party or play date.
For me, sitting down for five minutes or going to the restroom alone is never easy,
And it's a privilege if I get to do something like take a nap or even watch television.
So, yes when I get the chance I rather stay inside,
I love to be alone in my own space, relaxing my body and clearing my mind.
I've learned that it's okay to say no at times,
Because things, people, life will suck you dry and take you down.
Watching a movie  or catching up on the DVR, on the couch with a glass a wine, is everything to me,
That's when I'm most comfortable, that's when I'm happy, that's when I feel completely relaxed and free.
Since I've been there before, no longer will I get to a point of feeling like I don't know if I'm going or coming,
So from now on I'm taking my own advice and it's okay to sometimes do absolutely nothing.

It's okay to do nothing and it's okay to say no; because, sometimes as parents, husbands, wives, students, employees, friends, etc. our lives get hectic and we feel bad about taking time for ourselves, but I've learned it's okay to need a break. It's okay to want peace and quiet. It's okay to have some me time. And it's perfectly okay to do absolutely nothing!

I got the inspiration for today's blog a few weekends back. One of my friends asked me why was I staying in and I didn't have my kid.
And I said so. That's the best time to spend alone. I look forward to the days I'm home alone. I look forward to just be able to watch tv (I watch cartoons everyday) lol. I like sitting on the couch and watching a movie or two. I like to have a glass of wine in peace. I love uninterrupted sleep!
I love doing nothing...that's the best weekend ever. And this weekend Kaidy will be gone and I will be right on the couch binge watching the rest of Wentworth. 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

"When you ask me what I'm doing today and I say "nothing," it does not mean I'm free. It means I'm doing nothing." -unknown

Until next time
Xoxoxo 🤗😘
K. Giles