Boy Bye

I’ve decided to lighten the mood from the previous two blogs and give you insight into my life as I get back out into the world of dating. OMG, dating is hard. Lol. Either there is a shortage of decent men or I be out at the wrong places, at the wrong times. I don’t remember dating being this difficult, oh wait, I do! Hence, I’m still single. But, I thought I was ready after being single for about 4 years now or so. Then again, I don’t know because I cannot take any of these dudes serious. I tell my daughter’s dad he should just marry me and take me out this misery because starting over is for the bird’s lol (But, I’ll save that story for another blog).

Okay, so I’ve met some not so good dudes. But, this one guy took the cake. Off top he was showing me red flags. The day I gave him my number he was like you want me to save your number as “bae or wifey,” uhm try neither! My name is Kiara. In my head, I’m thinking dude I just met you. About 2 days later, he suggested that we chill. His words were, “I have some wine and a movie and I am only missing you.” I politely told him that I was not a Netflix and chill type of chick and especially not for a first date.

Let’s fast forward to the weekend. By now, he is adamant about us meeting up and he was blowing my phone up via texts and calls. He was wanting to know my every move. Last I checked, I was grown and he didn’t have any kids, but if he did I wasn’t one of them. Hell, my own dad can't even question me! Don’t get me wrong, I love attention and affection but the wrong kind could get you hurt. He just made me feel like if I were to give him a chance, he would be “stalker-ish.” He came off as controlling and possessive. I feel as if a man want to know where you are, what you’re doing, who you’re with, how long you’re going to be, etc. every other minute and you all are not married then he is suspect. His ass may be crazy. I’ve seen too many women end up missing and I can’t take those chances. I don’t know but I do know that I didn’t trust it. He lost all points when he was rushing me to meet him after I told him I was uniform and school supply shopping for my baby. Like dude, you do NOT come before my child, I’ll be however long I’m going to be!

During this process, I have learned to love me and to date me. My daughter and I have mother-daughter outings quite often and I enjoy it. I pray to God that I am content and happy in my singleness. I’m learning to be okay with it being just my daughter and I from here on out. All I can do is patiently wait on God to pair me with my husband and if that day never comes, I’m good with dating me. I choose me!

So after about a week, I couldn’t take dude seriously. I started to wonder and ask myself why, and this is what I came up with…

BOY BYE ✌🏾️✌🏾

I met this dude, I kept telling him that I'm not the one for you,

I don't mean to be rude, but I'm very close to catching an attitude.

He blows up my phone, questioning if or when I'll be home,

You're not my man but when I ignore you I'm wrong, just leave me alone!

I hate for a dude to police me, like dude I'm grown, let me be,

You're just dumb or to blind to see, that your texts and calls are bothering me.

And I'm ignoring you for a reason, this is not our season.

Take the hint and stop blowing me up, it doesn't mean to text me if you call and I don't pick up.

Take the hint and call it quits!

I've never met a dude so into me, after 2 days you were in too deep,

And that was starting to scare me.

You come off as controlling or possessive, I'm not trying to be caught up in that obsession,

Your contacting me is a bit excessive, and would I prefer less of it.

I don't want a man that clingy, those the ones that end up crazy,

And that's not my cup of tea.

Honestly you're on my damn nerves, like nigga swerve!

Sorry if you take this wrong, but damn just stop contacting my phone,

It's over, I'm done!

It was nice of you to try 

But...BOY BYE!


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